• LGBTQ+ Resources

    This can be a tough journey. You are not alone. Here are resources to help make it easier.

    Looking for a resource we shared in a training? See our Training Resources blog post.

    This is by no means a complete list of the resources available. Please feel free to look and see what feels more relevant. We are focusing on the Baltimore-Washington Metro Region, however we do include some national resources and websites. If you feel something is missing please email us at info@pflaghoco.org


    Take a minute to look at the PFLAG National publications below. They are available for download and can provide immediate support for your individual needs.

    2021 Scholarship Application



     To recognize outstanding lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer plus (LGBTQ+) and allied students

     To encourage the pursuit of post-secondary education for self-identified LGBTQ+ and allies

     To foster a positive image of the LGBTQ+ society


    Scholarship Offered:


     Columbia - Howard County PFLAG Scholarship for Outstanding LGBTQ+ and Allied Students

     Amount of Scholarship: $2,000.00




     Self-identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer plus (LGBTQ+) or as an ally who demonstrates outstanding support directly to the LGBTQ+ society and supports equality for all

     A resident of the state of Maryland who is currently attending, or planning to attend, a post-secondary educational institution during the 2021-2022 academic year, or

     A student currently attending, or planning to attend, a Maryland post-secondary educational institution in the state of Maryland during the 2021-2022 academic year (Maryland residency not required if attending a Maryland educational institution)

     Must complete a Columbia - Howard County PFLAG Scholarship application IN ITS ENTIRETY including all required supplemental forms (incomplete applications will not be considered)

     Cannot be receiving full tuition remission from other sources to fund the education (e.g., other full-tuition scholarships, established college trust fund, etc.)

     Cannot be a prior recipient of the Columbia - Howard County PFLAG Scholarship


    Deadline and Terms of Award:


     The completed application must be postmarked by May 31, 2021 and mailed to:


    PFLAG Columbia - Howard County

    Attention: Scholarship Committee

    P. O. Box 1479, Columbia, Maryland 21044


    Forms and supporting documents can be obtained online at http://www.pflaghoco.org/. (INCOMPLETE APPLICATIONS WILL NOT BE CONSIDERED.)


     The Scholarship Selection Committee will review all applications and make their final decision in the first two weeks of June. All applicants will receive written communication of the decisions made by the scholarship committee. All decisions will be sent in the mail.


     Identity disclosure will be required as the scholarship recipient(s) will be announced in various press releases and other print or online media.


     Scholarship recipient is responsible for providing PFLAG Columbia - Howard County with a copy of the acceptance letter for the intended post-secondary institution they will be attending. The award will be sent directly to this academic institution and will be sent in $1,000.00 increments (fall and spring semester).


    Application and Supplemental Materials:


     General application form

     PFLAG Scholarship Questionnaire

     Two sealed letters of recommendation (with at least one from a teacher/professor and one from an individual in the community) Note: RYA facilitators, PFLAG Steering Committee members, family and friends cannot serve as recommenders.

     Academic transcripts (unofficial copies)


    **All information is confidential and will only be shared with scholarship committee**


    Access the application by clicking here

  • Be Yourself

    A fresh new update to one of PFLAG's most popular publications! This publication offers a supportive and understanding approach to today's most common questions and concerns from youth regarding sexual orientation, gender identity, and gender expression. With youth coming out--and disclosing--at younger and younger ages, BE YOURSELF has never been more important. The publication also includes an up-to-date list of resources, including hotline numbers, other organizations, and more.

    Faith in our families

    Discovering that a loved one is gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender can pose new questions about your faith and may prompt you to re-evaluate beliefs that you previously took for granted. By using personal experiences, this publication provides examples for reconciling your faith with the knowledge that a loved one is gay. This publication includes an updated list of gay and lesbian religious and spiritual groups to watch out for.

    Our trans loved ones

    Our Trans Loved Ones: Questions and Answers for Parents, Families, and Friends of People Who Are Transgender and Gender Expansive. Our Trans Loved Ones is a brand-new, updated resource. Written by PFLAG staff members, and created with the help of content experts, reviewers, and PFLAGers with experience to share, it is full of information, first-person stories, and expert input geared to those who have a loved one who has come out as trans or gender expansive.​

    Our children

    An update to the perennial favorite PFLAG publication, OUR DAUGHTERS AND SONS, OUR CHILDREN offers a fresh eye for families and others about what to do when a loved ones comes out. Full of useful knowledge, helpful tips, expert opinions and first-person stories, OUR CHILDREN--which has a focus on sexual orientation and gender expression--is a must read for anyone looking to learn more about how to support LGBTQ loved ones...or looking for support for themselves.


    This publication is the Spanish translation of PFLAG's publication, Be Yourself. The book is a great resource for Spanish-speaking youth and families.

    A culturally appropriate Spanish translation of "Our Daughters and Sons," this publication is a valuable resource for Spanish-speaking families coming to terms with homosexuality and bisexuality. The booklet answers commonly asked questions about having an LGBTQ loved one, and includes information about additional Spanish language resources.

  • Black/African American Resources

  • Faith Resources

  • Intimate Partner Abuse Support Resources

  • Latinx/Latina/Latino Resources

    • Somos Familia supports Latino families with children who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender or queer (LGBTQ) and conducts education to create family and community acceptance. The group was started by two mothers to support other families with similar experiences.
  • Legal Support

  • LGBTQ Health Resources for Us and Our Providers

    For Our Community
    For Our Providers
    • LGBTQ Mental Health is a comprehensive guide by the National LGBT Health Education Center that includes research and statistics on the health disparities within our community. It reveals the inconsistencies LGBTQ folk experience in healthcare, and outlines steps for health centers and organizations to help fight the stigma while providing options and support for our community.
    • Gender and Youth, a brochure that helps start a conversation with parents of gender creative pre-teens and teens.
    • Gender and Children, a brochure that helps start a conversation with parents of gender creative little folks.
  • Parent/Caregiver/Family/Chosen Family Resources

  • School Support and GSAs

  • South Asian Community Resources

  • Suicide Prevention

  • Terms and Terminology

    Advocate – 1 noun : a person who actively works to end intolerance, educate others, and support social equity for a marginalized group. 2 verb to actively support/plea in favor of a particular cause, the action of working to end intolerance, educate others, etc.
    Agender – adj. : a person with no (or very little) connection to the traditional system of gender, no personal alignment with the concepts of either man or woman, and/or someone who sees themselves as existing without gender. Sometimes called gender neutrois, gender neutral, or genderless.
    Ally /“al-lie”/ – noun : a (typically straight and/or cisgender) person who supports and respects members of the LGBTQ community. We consider people to be active allies who take action on in support and respect.
    Bigender – adj. : a person who fluctuates between traditionally “woman” and “man” gender-based behavior and identities, identifying with both genders (and sometimes a third gender).
    Bisexual – adj. : 1 a person who is emotionally, physically, and/or sexually attracted to males/men and females/women. 2 a person who is emotionally, physically, and/or sexually attracted to people of their gender and another gender . This attraction does not have to be equally split or indicate a level of interest that is the same across the genders or sexes an individual may be attracted to.
    Cisgender /“siss-jendur”/ – adj. : a person whose gender identity and biological sex assigned at birth align (e.g., man and assigned male at birth). A simple way to think about it is if a person is not transgender, they are cisgender. The word cisgender can also be shortened to “cis.”
    Cisnormativity – noun : the assumption, in individuals or in institutions, that everyone is cisgender, and that cisgender identities are superior to trans* identities or people. Leads to invisibility of non-cisgender identities.
    FtM / F2M; MtF / M2F – abbreviation : female-to-male transgender or transsexual person; male-to-female transgender or transsexual person.
    Gay – adj. : : : 1 individuals who are primarily emotionally, physically, and/or sexually attracted to members of the same sex and/or gender. More commonly used when referring to men who are attracted to other men, but can be applied to women as well. 2 An umbrella term used to refer to the queer community as a whole, or as an individual identity label for anyone who does not identify as heterosexual.
    Gender fluid– adj. : : gender fluid is a gender identity best described as a dynamic mix of boy and girl. A person who is gender fluid may always feel like a mix of the two traditional genders, but may feel more man some days, and more woman other days.
    Gender identity – noun : the internal perception of an one’s gender, and how they label themselves, based on how much they align or don’t align with what they understand their options for gender to be. Common identity labels include man, woman, genderqueer, trans, and more. Often confused with biological sex, or sex assigned at birth.
    Gender non-conforming – adj. : 1 a gender expression descriptor that indicates a non-traditional gender presentation (masculine woman or feminine man) 2 a gender identity label that indicates a person who identifies outside of the gender binary. Often abbreviated as “GNC.”
    Gender normative / gender straight – adj. : someone whose gender presentation, whether by nature or by choice, aligns with society’s gender-based expectations.
    Genderqueer – adj. : a gender identity label often used by people who do not identify with the binary of man/woman; or as an umbrella term for many gender non-conforming or non-binary identities (e.g., agender, bigender, genderfluid).
    Heteronormativity – noun : the assumption, in individuals or in institutions, that everyone is heterosexual (e.g. asking a woman if she has a boyfriend) and that heterosexuality is superior to all other sexualities. Leads to invisibility and stigmatizing of other sexualities. Heteronormativity also leads us to assume that only masculine men and feminine women are straight.
    Heterosexual – adj. : a person primarily emotionally, physically, and/or sexually attracted to members of the opposite sex. Also known as straight.
    Homophobia – noun : an umbrella term for a range of negative attitudes (e.g., fear, anger, intolerance, resentment, erasure, or discomfort) that one may have towards members of LGBTQ community. The term can also connote a fear, disgust, or dislike of being perceived as LGBTQ. Homophobic – adj. : a word used to describe an individual who harbors some elements of this range of negative attitudes towards gay people.
    Homosexual – adj. & noun : a person primarily emotionally, physically, and/or sexually attracted to members of the same sex/gender. This [medical] term is considered stigmatizing (particularly as a noun) due to its history as a category of mental illness, and is discouraged for common use (use gay or lesbian instead).
    Intersex – adj. : term for a combination of chromosomes, gonads, hormones, internal sex organs, and genitals that differs from the two expected patterns of male or female. Formerly known as hermaphrodite (or hermaphroditic), but these terms are now outdated and derogatory.
    Lesbian – noun & adj. women who have the capacity to be attracted romantically, erotically, and/or emotionally to some other women.
    LGBTQ; GSM; DSG – abbreviations : shorthand or umbrella terms for all folks who have a non-normative (or queer) gender or sexuality, there are many different initialisms people prefer. LGBTQ is Lesbian Gay Bisexual Transgender and Queer and/or Questioning (sometimes people at a + at the end in an effort to be more inclusive); GSM is Gender and Sexual Minorities; DSG is Diverse Sexualities and Genders. Other options include the initialism GLBT or LGBT and the acronym QUILTBAG (Queer [or Questioning] Undecided Intersex Lesbian Trans* Bisexual Asexual [or Allied] and Gay [or Genderqueer]).
    Metrosexual – adj. : a man with a strong aesthetic sense who spends more time, energy, or money on his appearance and grooming than is considered gender normative.
    Pansexual – adj. : a person who experiences sexual, romantic, physical, and/or spiritual attraction for members of all gender identities/expressions. Often shortened to “pan.”
    PGPs – abbreviation : preferred gender pronouns. Often used during introductions, becoming more common in educational institutions. Many suggest removing the “preferred,” because it indicates flexibility and/or the power for the speaker to decide which pronouns to use for someone else.
    Queer – adj. : used as an umbrella term to describe individuals who don’t identify as straight. Also used to describe people who have a non-normative gender identity, or as a political affiliation. Due to its historical use as a derogatory term, it is not embraced or used by all members of the LGBTQ community. The term “queer” can often be use interchangeably with LGBTQ (e.g., “queer folks” instead of “LGBTQ folks”).
    QPOC / QTPOC – abbreviation : initialisms that stand for queer people of color and queer and/or trans people of color.
    Sex assigned at birth (SAAB) – abbreviation : a phrase used to intentionally recognize a person’s assigned sex (not gender identity). Sometimes called “designated sex at birth” (DSAB) or “sex coercively assigned at birth” (SCAB), or specifically used as “assigned male at birth” (AMAB) or “assigned female at birth” (AFAB): Jenny was assigned male at birth, but identifies as a woman.
    Skoliosexual – adj. : being primarily sexually, romantically and/or emotionally attracted to some genderqueer, transgender, transsexual, and/or non-binary people.
    Trans* – adj. : An umbrella term covering a range of identities that transgress socially defined gender norms. Trans with an asterisk is often used in written forms (not spoken) to indicate that you are referring to the larger group nature of the term, and specifically including non-binary identities, as well as transgender men (transmen) and transgender women (trans women).
    Transgender – adj. : A person who lives as a member of a gender other than that assigned at birth based on anatomical sex.
    Transition / transitioning – noun, verb this term is primarily used to refer to the process a trans* person undergoes when changing their bodily appearance either to be more congruent with the gender/sex they feel themselves to be and/or to be in harmony with their preferred gender expression.
    Transphobia – noun : the fear of, discrimination against, or hatred of trans* people, the trans* community, or gender ambiguity. Transphobia can be seen within the queer community, as well as in general society. Transphobia is often manifested in violent and deadly means. While the exact numbers and percentages aren’t incredibly solid on this, it’s safe to say that trans* people are far more likely than their cisgender peers (including LGB people) to be the victims of violent crimes and murder. Transphobic – adj. : a word used to describe an individual who harbors some elements of this range of negative attitudes, thoughts, intents, towards trans* people.
    Transsexual – noun and adj. a person who identifies psychologically as a gender/sex other than the one to which they were assigned at birth. Transsexuals often wish to transform their bodies hormonally and surgically to match their inner sense of gender/sex.
    Transvestite – noun : a person who dresses as the binary opposite gender expression (“cross-dresses”) for any one of many reasons, including relaxation, fun, and sexual gratification (often called a “cross-dresser,” and should not be confused with transsexual).

  • Transgender Resources

    Supporting Siblings of Transgender Children

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